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Lapho usuthole umuntu - cha, lokho akulona iqiniso - uma usuwunqobile kwilotto yothando bese ucabanga ngalokho okufanele ukwenze ngokushaya kwakho (uyazi, ukuthi uthando luthande njengokuwina okukhulu kwe-lottery : muhle futhi unengcindezi ngasikhathi sinye), okungukuthi, lapho umuntu esewele komunye, kungaba ngengozi noma isiphetho sishiywe sivulekile, lapho umuntu abelana khona umbono wendlela ejwayelekile, ngokudlula kubha elandelayo, lapho kuyiqiniso kuphela Izinselele zothando. Impela, lolu ulwazi olujwayelekile, iHollywood bekungafanele lufakazele kithi.
"Uma usuwele umuntu ohlanganyele naye umbono wendlela ejwayelekile, ngaphezu kwe-bar elandelayo, kuzovela kuphela izinselelo zangempela zothando."
Mayelana nokuthola ukuthi yonke into engeke ichazwe ncamashi, kunezinganekwane ezinhle kakhulu, kulesimo ngemuva kwalokho, kunemibiko yokusinda elusizi nje kuphela ephakamisa izwe eliyinqaba nelinobuhlanga. Njengokufika okusha kulo mhlaba we "mbhangqwana", asebekhulile abasunguliwe bavame ukunikezwa ukuhlolwa kokungena okujulile, okuqukethe imibuzo eminingi futhi kubonakala kunenhloso yokuhlola ukungathí sina kwalabo abazimisele ukwenzeka kwendalo.
Kufanele kube yisikhathi lapho imibhangqwana, uma yayingakwazi ukuyikhokhela, ifune into eyodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke: ibanga elikhulu lesikhala ukusuka komunye nomunye. Hhayi nje ngoba mhlawumbe uhlele okungaphezu kokuthandayo. Cha, umuntu wagcina ibanga elinenhlonipho komunye, umuntu wahlangana naye ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa ngenye indlela waqhubeka nokuhlakulela izinkanuko kanye nemibuzo ayekhulele kuyo empilweni yakhe. Isixuku kuphela okwakudingeka ukuthi sihlale phezu komunye nomunye futhi sikhuthazelele ukuba khona kwesinye njalo.
Namuhla, nokho, umbuzo wezindlu ezijwayelekile usuxoxwa kusigaba sokuqala sokuhlolwa kwesethulo ngesicelo sokufika kwabokufika ezweni le "mbhangqwana". Ngaphandle kokubheka izindaba ezisabalele zemibhangqwana ebezijabule iminyaka eminingi, kuze kube yilapho zihlanganyela ifulethi, okungukuthi, kuze kube yilapho omunye wazo enomqondo wokwakha izindonga ezine ndawonye. Umbuzo ubonakala udluliswa njengovivinyo lwe-litmus lokujula kothandwano. Ukudonsana ndawonye nokuthola izingcezu ezijwayelekile zefenisha kule equation kuveza ikhambi: uthando olukhulu.
Amadoda asengacabanga ekuqaleni ukuthi indawo yokuhlala ejwayelekile yandisa imvamisa yocansi. Ngaleso sizathu, umcabango we-pink plush noma omhlophe wokuhlanzeka ongaphakathi, ukuqoqwa kukababa obondiwe, ama-tattoos odongeni noma ikati elinenwele nawo amukelwa ngesibindi. Amantombazane ayabubula, lokho kumele kube uthando lweqiniso, ngenkathi ngaphansi kwetafula ngepensela ekhonjiwe, i-accounting yezindleko iyavula futhi ifike emiphumeleni, indlu enjalo eyabelwe nayo ishibhile kakhulu. Okungenani wazizwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kuhamba phakathi kwezindawo ezimbili kungukuchitha isikhathi esibi, uyakhalaza, futhi kamuva ubheke phambili ekusebenziseni kahle lesi sikhathi esisanda kutholwa nemibukiso yethelevishini ehlanganyelwe.
"Ngesinye isikhathi umuntu uhlala eshiya omunye, ovele anciphise iqhaza lesitha."
Ngubani othanda, ofuna ukwehlukanisa, abe omunye nomunye. Cishe akunakwenzeka, lokhu kufisa kufanele kuxoxwe kumasayithi wesibili. Ukukhetha umbhede ndawonye, umuzwa wokubumbana. Isakhiwo esihlanganyelwe, ukulwa nemiyalo kanye ne-screwdriver engenazintambo, kusebenza ngekusasa elihlangene. Kamuva, lapho ngihlanza, ngihlanza, ngiyothenga futhi ngipheka, umuzwa womphakathi awunamandla ngendlela exakile. Ngesinye isikhathi othile uhlala ashiye omunye, lowo ngokungena kancane kancane abambe iqhaza lesitha. Isikhathi esithathiwe manje sesisetshenziselwa izingxoxo futhi lo mphathi, esasikade simdinga kakhulu, sibaphatha, impela, singenamkhawulo, njengoba singavumela omunye wabangane bethu. Strange, esikukholelwayo lover ukukholwa konke.
Kungani ungagcini isikhathi sokuhlala ekhaya lasebekhulile, lapho ungasadingeki ubuyisele impilo yokusebenza kanye nothando noma efulethini okwabiwe kulo eRoma, lapho uhlala izinyanga ezintathu ngonyaka futhi ugubha isimo esiphuthumayo simnandi. Uba njalo nje umbono onjalo. Vele, ungaphinde uqashe indawo enkulu yokuhlala, uqashe abasebenzi bese uvumela abanye ukuthi babe yimi ebangeni elihle. Ngoba akukho mqondo wobumbano noma uthando uboshelwe ngokulingene ekusondeleni kwendawo.
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