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Eminyakeni eyishumi noma eyishumi edlule, lapho i-Facebook isesemncane futhi ngithatha izinyathelo zami zokuqala kwi-Intanethi, ngabona ngokushesha ukuthi lezi zinkundla zokuxhumana nabantu ezaqhamuka njengamakhowe zingasetshenziselwa okungaphezulu kakhulu kokuxhumana Abangane nabantu obajwayele. Ukusetshenziswa kwazo, noma kunjalo, kwakuhambisana nokuvelela. Imizwa yaguquguquka phakathi kokukhulu nokungathembani.
Ngaleso sikhathi, okungenani eMunich, lapho ngangihlala khona ngaleso sikhathi, inethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu bendawo yayibizwa ngokuthi yiLokalisten. Umbono wawungukuthi yonke iMunich encane yayiphithizela lapho futhi ngokungafani nezwe le-analog, ukuvimbela ukukhuluma nomuntu kwakumncane kakhulu. Imilayezo yayihlale ifipha ebhokisini leposi. Izinkanuko ezejwayelekile, abangane noma izinhloso, konke kungazelelwe wonke umuntu athole lokho abebekufuna futhi bekungafanele ukuthi ashiye indlu ethembeni lekusasa eletha abantu abafanele.
Kuyiqiniso, akekho umsebenzisi owayengazi ukuthi amanethiwekhi anjalo futhi awusizo lokuqala lokuqala. Ukubonisa izintshisekelo akukaze kube lula ukukhombisa. Ukuqabulwa yingxoxo yi-Sympathiefaden, ekugcineni kwaba ngumhlangano wangempela.
Futhi lezi zazicishe zibe nento engathandeki. Wonke umuntu onobungane engihlangane naye akakaze athi wake wahlangana nowesifazane kwi-inthanethi. Iningi lezingxoxo bekuwubufakazi bokuthi igebe phakathi kwezwe ledijithali nezwe le-analog libonwe likhulu kakhulu. Owayephikisana naye wayengumfokazi, engaziwa kakhulu kunanoma imuphi umfokazi ojwayelekile. Ukwahlukana phakathi kwezwe "langempela" nezwe "elibuhlungu" kwakubukhali. Futhi okungaziwa kusuka ku-inthanethi ngandlela thile akuyona ingxenye yezwe le-analog eyaziwayo nelingaziwa.
Eqinisweni, lapho nje leli ghuba linqotshwa futhi sekuhlangana abantu ababili, beba umbhangqwana, lokhu kwakubopha ifindo lenganekwane elivela kude ne-Intanethi. Kwazwakala kanjani uma impendulo yombuzo wesingeniso yayimane nje iyi- “Internet”? Lutho neze kwezothando. Futhi ingabe i-intanethi bekungeyona nje kuphela ama-nerds angazange athole ithuba lokuthola umlingani empilweni yangempela?
Namuhla, lapho ngihlala kusihlwa eqenjini elikhulu nabangane, wonke umuntu utshela ngokwemvelo ngokudlala ngothando kwe-Intanethi. Futhi ngisho nogogo wakho uqobo akasamangazwa yimizila yokwethula enjalo. Hhayi okungenani ngoba bekungakaze kube yinto eyenzelwa isizukulwane esincane kakhulu, kepha wonke amaqembu eminyaka ayajabula emhlabeni wokuphola online. Amaphesenti we-30 wabo bonke ubudlelwano ayatholakala phakathi kwe-Intanethi.
"EBerlin, kwesinye isikhathi ngiba nomuzwa wokuthi ukudlala ngothando endaweni yomphakathi kucishe kwavalwa ngokuphelele futhi konke sekuguqukele kwenethiwekhi."
EBerlin, kwesinye isikhathi ngiba nomuzwa wokuthi ukudlala ngothando endaweni yomphakathi kucishe kwavalwa ngokuphelele futhi konke sekuguqukele kwinethiwekhi. Noma uhleli wedwa emgqonyeni njengowesifazane kusihlwa, lokhu akubonwa njengesimemo. Kepha iBerlin kungenzeka ukuthi izizwa imnandi kakhulu ngalezi zimo eziwubufakazi kanye nezingubo ngendlela ecashile kangangokuba ivele iwele ngaphansi kwengqangi yami yokuqonda. Umbuzo okhanyiselwe ukukhanyiselwa engisasebenza kuwo.
Ekugcineni, ngesingeniso sohlelo lokusebenza lokuqomisana iTinder ku2012, kufinyeleleke izinga elisha ekuziphendukeleni kwe- (online) ukuphola. Isithembiso: ukwazana kalula! Isimiso: Ukukhetha isisusa sethambo. Isizathu esibuthakathaka sokuthi iTinder yaba yinto yomhlaba.
Ngoba ngeqiniso lokuthi isithombe sinquma ngokuxhumana hhayi igama elibhaliwe, zonke izithiyo zolimi zachithwa, abenzi ngaleyo ndlela bashaya i-central nerve. Wonke umuntu omdala wesithathu akashadile, imakethe inkulu. Indlela yokuphila eguqukayo nayo idinga ukuthi zonke izinketho zigcinwe zivulekile othandweni. Kudala samukela umgomo womnotho wemakethe empilweni yangasese futhi. I-Tinder ingumphumela wokugcina.
Kodwa noma ngubani oye wazama ukuxoxa nge-inthanethi ngasikhathi esithile uthola ukuthi kuletha ukwaneliseka okuncane. Okokuqala umuzwa obabazekayo wokukwazi ukukhetha umlingani ofiselekayo kwikhathalogi enkulu, izinsuku eziningi ezingaphumelelanga kamuva emva kwalokho ukungathandeki nokungabi nathemba kwangaphakathi.
"Izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuqomisana ziyashukumisa kakhulu ezisenza sizizwe sigciniwe okwesikhashana kusuka ekungabalulekeni kwazo, okwenza noma ikuphi ukuphela kobudlelwano kube inketho yomlingani ongcono."
Izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuqomisana ziyisikhuthazo se-ego ezisenza sizizwe sigciniwe okwesikhashana kusuka ekungabalulekeni kwazo, okwenza noma ikuphi ukuphela kobudlelwano kube inketho yomlingani ongcono.
Muva nje, noma kunjalo, kuye kuvela imibhalo ethe xaxa ngabasebenzisi bangaphambili beTinder, abavuma ukuphuma kwabo. Ukuqomisana kumkhuba nje omubi, okuhle, ukubhidliza imizuzu embalwa yokulinda, ngakho-ke i-tenor. Umuntu ungena ngokuphelele esindweni esingenangqondo futhi alahlekelwe yingozi yakhe.
Okusemqoka wukuthi kushubile: izinkinga zokuthola nokugcina ubudlelwane zihlale zinjalo. Ekugcineni, i-Internet Flirt kusamele izibonakalise iseqinisweni. Esikudingayo ngempela ukuthi sifunde ukubhekana namathuba amasha. Ngoba kufanele sibalawule, hhayi thina.
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