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Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni ehlekisayo? Emva phaya, xa ndathenga ngengozi idyasi yam yokuqala kwiminyaka eyi-60 xa ndandineminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu ndagqiba kwelokuba ndihambe nesitayile esifanelekileyo, abantu bandibiza ngokuba "ngu-Marilyn Monroe" esitratweni. Wayeyinto ekuphela kwayo eyamdibanisa nolu hlobo lokubonakala. Ukuba wayenxibe iinwele zakhe ezimhlophe-blond kwaye ndema ngumbala wewotshi onombala wendalo, kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ayenzileyo.
Kwiminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu kamva, ukuba luhlobo nje lokuvumela imeko, ndiza kubuzwa ukuba ngaba ndiyindoda na okanye bendiyindoda. Kungenzeka ukuba ndiyayicinga le nto, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ixelela into malunga nemo yangoku kuluntu lwethu.
Uvavanyo lwangaphandle, njengokwabelana ngesondo, luhamba kunye nabasetyhini kwasebusaneni. Kwaye nokuba ukhuselekile kakhulu kwaye ukhulela kude kumzi mveliso wefashoni, njengoko ndenzayo. Andifuni ukukhanyela ukuba amakhwenkwe awakhange adluliselwe kwiintyatyambo ezingaqhelekanga ezinokwenziwa kukufikisa ngokwendlela yokufeketha, ukanti kusoloko kukho ukuxhalaba okukhulu ngamantombazana. Kwaye ukungalingani kuhlala kuhlala kunjalo. Ndiyacinga, kude kube sekupheleni kobomi bokusebenza.
Nangona kunjalo, ndifumene uluvo lukaBarbara Kuchler (DIE ZEIT), oluvele kutshanje kwingxoxo mpikiswano ye- #metoo, ngaphezulu kokuthandabuza. Ngamafutshane, ucela abafazi ukuba batshintshe endodeni, banxibe iimpahla ezinganxibanga umzimba kwaye basebenzise amandla hayi ukubonakala, kodwa umsebenzi kunye nemfundo. Kwaye kwakhona ukubaleka i-sexism - ngaphandle komtsalane, akukho (grapsch) yokusabela-ke umbono wabo.
"Indoda ebenxibe iyunifomu yesizathu kunye nokusebenza kakuhle kwayo kungumlinganiso ongekho mthethweni njengowasetyhini obhinqe amandla akhe engqondo sele etyhafile ekusebenziseni imilebe yomlomo."
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba istress sobufazi ukuba siyakrokrela kwezi ntsuku. Nokuba yeyiphi na imeko, kuqinisekile ukuba abo bafuna ukuviwa njengowasetyhini mabayeke ubufazi. U-Angela Merkel ngumzekelo apha obeka ngokwakhe. Ufanekisela ilizwe, kodwa njengowasetyhini akaqondakali.
Indoda yokomoya inamakhowudi kuluntu lwethu. Indoda igxininisa ukuqala kwe20. Yinkulungwane, ukuba ayikuthathisi ukubaluleka kokungaphandle kwaye inezinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi ekufuneka zenziwe. Ngelixa lo mfazi ebalasele namhlanje ukuza kuthi ga ngoku emqolo ongasemva angabinayo enye into engqondweni kunokusongela imbonakalo yakhe ethandekayo kunye ne-darzubieten. Ubukhomokazi, njengombhali wefashoni uBarbara Vinken, uhlala ekrokrelwa bubudenge kunye nobuqhetseba.
Indlela enjalo yokudityaniswa kwezesini ngendlela yokunxiba ifana nqwa nokuziqhelanisa nezinto ezingenabunyani kwilizwe loosolusapho. Kwaye amadoda afanelekileyo akawenzanga umhlaba ulungile, akunjalo? Indoda edityaniswe njengophawu lwesizathu kunye nokusebenza kakuhle kwayo kungumngxuma ongathi ngowomfazi ogama amandla engqondo sele ephelisiwe ekusebenziseni imilebe yomlomo.
Ukujonga izinto, ucalucalulo kwisiseko sokubonakala, kwenzeka kum rhoqo ukusukela ekuqaleni kobomi bam bobuchwephesha. Kodwa andikaze ndizibuze ukuba yintoni engalunganga ngam, kodwa yintoni eyona nto iphosakeleyo kuluntu, ukuba indlela yokunxiba igqiba kakhulu malunga novavanyo lobuchule. Kwaye kuninzi okungalunganga. Kwakuza kufuneka sikhulule umntu kwimbophelelo yakhe yokunxiba iyunifomu kwaye simyeke aphathe "ubuze" bakhe obutsha. Uye wakwazi ukufihla ixesha elide kakhulu, ekholelwa ukuba unako ukubalahla ubuhle kunye nobuhle. Okwangoku, kuyinyani ukuba kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ubufazi njengesenzo semvukelo kwaye ungavumeli nantoni na ekuchukumisayo.
Photo / Ividiyo: Oscar Schmidt.
Ndicinga ukuba into esingayiboniyo itsala umdla ongakumbi. Kubantu abaninzi bomthonyama ubuze buqhelekile, akukho mntu ukhathaleleyo ukuba amalungu omzimba onqunu angabonakala. Kunje.
Sisetyenziswa kweli lizwe lethu, iyavakala into yokuba uninzi lwabafazi luba nesibindi sokuqhayisela ubufazi babo. Ukuthemba abafazi abaninzi ngakumbi ukuba banxibe isitayela sabo. Ukuze ababukeli ekugqibeleni baneliswe kwaye emva koko baphelise ukunyanzelwa.
Ewe, akukho lula. Kuba njenge-anyanisi, elandelayo iza ekukhanyeni phantsi komaleko omnye:
Bayeke abafazi banxibe oko bafuna.
Kutheni le nto sifuna le khowudi yokunxiba? Kutheni ukusebenza nokubonakala kubala ngaphezulu kwamaxabiso angaphakathi kuluntu lwethu? Kutheni sicinga ukuba kufuneka sizifihle emva kwayo yonke le nto? Kuthekani ukuba sonke "sihamba" ngokwenyani ngengqondo yokwenyani- njengoko sinjalo, ngamanye amaxesha sibuthathaka, ngamanye amaxesha somelele, ngamanye amaxesha siphambene, ngamanye amaxesha kuphela ... singabonisa? Ngaba kuya kubakho izinto zokudibana eziyinyani emva koko? Ngaba ke singafunda ngokulula ngakumbi kumava abanye? Ngaba uluntu loluntu beluya kukhula kunye eluthandweni? Ngaba bekungasayi kubakho zimfazwe, kodwa ngakumbi ngakumbi ukuhoyana? Ngaba siziva sinxibelelene nayo yonke into emva koko? Ngaba okanye ngakumbi ngendalo? ... uphi umongo, siphi isiphelo?
Yinto elula. Wonke umntu uqala ngokwabo. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo zonke zikwixesha elinye. -D