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Xa sele usebenzile umntu ongumntu-hayi, ayiyonyani leyo - xa sele uwinile kwi-lottery yothando kwaye emva koko cinga ngento omele uyenze ngokubetheka kwakho (uyazi, kuba luthando ngokungathi luphumelele into enkulu yelotto : mhle kwaye unexinzelelo ngaxeshanye), oko kukuthi, xa umntu sele eswele emntwini, nokuba lithuba okanye ikamva lishiywe livulekile, ubani abelana naye umbono wendlela eqhelekileyo, njengebhari elandelayo, iya kuba yinyani kuphela Imiceli mngeni yothando. Ewe, olu lwazi oluqhelekileyo, iHollywood akufunekanga ibonakalise kuthi.
Xa sele uwele umntu owabelana naye ngombono wendlela eqhelekileyo, ngaphaya kwebha elandelayo, kuya kuvela kuphela imingeni yothando.
Malunga nokufumana ukuba yonke into engenakuchazwa ngokuthe ngqo, kukho awona mabali amnandi, ngemeko emva koko, kunengxelo ezimbi zokusinda ezibonisa ilizwe elingaqhelekanga nelilukhuni. Njengomntu omtsha kweli lizwe "lesibini", esele zindala zihlala zinikwa uvavanyo lokungena lokungena, olunemibuzo emininzi kwaye lubonakala njengezona njongo zokujonga ubunyani balabo bavumayo ukuba yindalo.
Kumele ukuba bekukho ixesha apho izibini, ukuba zinakho ukuzihlawulela, zifuna into enye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into: umda omkhulu womhlaba omnye komnye. Akunjalo kuphela ngenxa yokuba mhlawumbi ucwangcise ngaphezulu kunokuba uthandile. Hayi, omnye ugcina umgama ozibonakalisayo komnye umntu, odityaniswa nalowo ngoku, kodwa ngenye indlela uqhubeke nokuhlakulela inkanuko kunye nemibuzo, leyo umntu akhulele kuyo ebomini bakhe. Kuphela ihlokondiba kwakufuneka lihlale ngaphezulu komnye kwaye linyamezele ukubakho rhoqo kwelinye.
Namhlanje, nangona kunjalo, umbuzo wezindlu eziqhelekileyo sele kuxoxwa ngazo kumhlathi wokuqala wovavanyo lwentsingiselo kwisicelo sokufudukela kwelinye ilizwe kwihlabathi "lesibini". Ngaphandle kwamabali axhaphakileyo esi sibini esonwabileyo kangangeminyaka emininzi, de babelana eflethini, ke de omnye wabo waba nombono wokwakha iindonga ezine kunye. Umbuzo ubonakala urhwetywa njengovavanyo lwe-litmus ngobunzulu bokuthandana. Ukudibanisa kunye nokufumana iziqwenga zefanitshala eziqhelekileyo kwi-equation emva koko kuvelisa isisombululo: uthando olukhulu.
Amadoda asenokucinga kwasekuqaleni ukuba indawo yokuhlala eqhelekileyo inyusa isantya esabelana ngaso ngesondo. Ngenxa yeso sizathu, ipinki epinki okanye imhlophe design yangaphakathi ecocekileyo yengqokelela, izinto eziqokelelweyo zikatata, ii tattoos zodonga okanye ikati enoboya nazo zamkelwe ngesibindi. Oomama bayancwina, loo nto mayibe luthando lokwenyani, ngelixa phantsi kwetafile ngepensile ekhonjiweyo, i-accounting yeendleko iyavula kwaye isiza isiphumo, indlu enjalo ekwabelwana ngayo ibiza kakhulu. Ubuncinci baziva. Ukongeza, oku ukuhamba phakathi kweendawo ezimbini yinkcitho yexesha elibi, uyakhalaza, kwaye kamva ujonge phambili ekusebenziseni kakuhle eli xesha lisandula ukufunyanwa kwimidlalo yeTV edibeneyo.
"Ngasihlandlo sithile umntu uhlala eshiya omnye, othi ngokuthe ngcembe abambe ongezantsi kwinxalenye yotshaba."
Ngubani othanda, ofuna ukwahlula imida, abe omnye ngokunye. Phantse ayinakwenzeka, lo mnqweno kufuneka emva koko kuxoxwe ngawo kwiziza eziziisekondari. Ukukhetha umandlalo kunye, imvakalelo yobunye. Isakhiwo esidibeneyo, umlo kunye nemiyalelo kunye ne-screwdriver engenazintambo, usebenza kwikamva elihlangeneyo. Emva kwexesha, xa ucoca, ucoca, uyothenga kwaye uyapheka, umbono wento engaqhelekanga awunamandla. Ngasihlandlo sithile umntu uhlala eshiya omnye emva, othi ngokuthe ngcembe atshone kwinxalenye yotshaba. Ixesha elifunyenweyo ngoku lisetyenziselwa iingxoxo kwaye elinye iqabane, ebesikade silinqwenela, sibaphatha ngokungqongqo, njengoko sinokuthi sivumele omnye wabahlobo bethu. Mangalisa, into esiyikholelwayo kumthandi kukukholelwa yonke into.
Kutheni ungagcini i-contraction yexesha kwikhaya labalupheleyo, xa kungasayi kufuneka uphinde uxolelanise ubomi bokusebenza kunye nothando okanye indlu e-Roma, apho uhlala khona iinyanga ezintathu ngonyaka kwaye ubhiyozela imeko yongxamiseko ibe mnandi. Kube kanye loo mbono. Ewe unakho nokuqesha indawo enkulu yokuhlala, uqesha abasebenzi kwaye uyeke nabanye ukuba babe kum kumgama ozibonakalisayo. Kuba akukho mvakalelo yomanyano okanye uthando ibotshelelwe ngokulingeneyo ekusondeleni kwindawo.
Photo / Ividiyo: Oscar Schmidt.
