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Iziganeko ezingaphelelanga, ezingaqondwa ngokupheleleyo okanye ezingalawulekiyo xa zidityaniswa, zihlala zisondela kubalo. Oku kubonakala kuqinisekisa abaNtshona. Nangona kudala kunamahemuhemu okuba amanani abonakalisa "inyani" kuphela kuphela. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyayazi isicatshulwa esabekwa nguWinston Churchill emlonyeni wakhe kwaye iyayishwankathela ingxaki.
Enye yezi zinto zizinto zesini. Kwakukhe kwenzeka oko, xa besabelana ngesondo kuphela, into leyo eyabhengezwa. Kwaye ndaba nzima ngakumbi kumbono woluntu kutshanje ngophando lukaWilliam Masters kunye noVirginia Johnson. Akukho sizathu sokuba yonke into isathengiswa ngoonobumba abathathu kude kube namhlanje, sisazi ukuba ukuthathwa akunakwenzeka. Ngayiphi na indlela, ngandlela thile umntu unyanzeliswa ukuba anike umbono wento eyabhengezwa njengeyisidingo esisiseko, ubuncinci njengomba oyimfuneko ukuze umntu aphile.
Nokuba iyintoni na le "ulwalamano lokwenyani", luphawu nje olwahlukileyo lwe-porn ekhanyiswe kakuhle kwaye lubonisa ukudinwa ngokugcuma. "
Iya kuba ngumsebenzi owuzuzisayo ebomini, ukuba bekungekho luthando lungaqondakaliyo. Uhamba ngendlela yakhe kwaye uthanda ukukhutshwa kwisini. Nangona i-ethereal ngakumbi kunesondo eliqinileyo, iyabonisa, ngokwahlukileyo ngokwasemzimbeni, ukuxhathisa okukhulu. Kwaye ngale saladi, umntu ebesoloko etywatyusha kangangeminyaka, kuba kwakungekho mgaqo-rhulumente, iimvumelwano zentlalo okanye ukupheliswa kwabo. Yintoni eyayingeyiyo kwaye engasayi kuzanywa, kodwa nokuba yamkelwe ngokwasentlalweni okanye ayivumi, ayitshintshanga ingxaki ekugqibeleni. Kwakhona, azikho iifomati ezibanzi ezikwiTV, ezinje ngokuthunyelwa kwelona xesha lihle kakhulu lomngxunya wehlobo "Yenza Uthando", esithembisa ukuba "uthando lungafunda," kwaye oku kuboniswa kwisiseko sabantu abatshatileyo bokwenyani ababonisa ngobungqina babo, indlela ulwalamano lokwenene phakathi kwabathandi lukhangeleka njani kuba i-intanethi izele isondo kuphela, kodwa ayigcwele ukusondelelana.
Nokuba yintoni le "isondeleyo yokwenyani", nantsi nje into eyahlukileyo ye-porn ekhanyiswe kakuhle kwaye yabonisa inkanuko ende yexesha elide ngokugcuma. "Ukusondelelana okwenyani" njengenyathelo lokuzonwabisa lokwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi.
Senza ntoni isibini esithandanayo, esiqhelekileyo, esinqwenela ukulala ngesondo, "eqhelekileyo" inqaku eliqhelekileyo kunye "neendlela eziqhelekileyo" zobomi bemihla ngemihla okwangoku, xa uthando kunye nenkanuko zingasahambelani? Kuba ngandlela thile kuya kubakho umnqweno wesondo, kodwa hayi nje kwinto esele isaziwa. Umbuzo uhlala ungaphendulwanga. Iimpendulo zihonjiswe ngeentaba zamanani -manqanaba angancedi nganto: ukusuka ekunxibeni iimpahla zokunxibisa okanye "ezothando" zokutya yiya ngaphaya kwekrimu yokucoca (ngokudibeneyo) ukuthengwa kwezinto zokudlala zabantu abadala kwaye- kunokuba ntsha kwiingcebiso - zokwenza umthambo we-Prostate.
"Ngokwasemthethweni, sonke siyabelana ngesondo, sanelisekile, kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, sisebenza rhoqo."
UPaula Lambert, ozama ukuphucula ubomi bakhe obuphathelele kwezesondo, unika iingcebiso kumanenekazi ngefomathi "Paula kommt" ukuba kufuneka awanyamekele kakuhle amadoda akhe, njengoko kungenjalo aya kuba lusizi, axhwale kwaye angasetyenziswa. Kwaye ngenxa yale nto awudingeki nokuba ulale kunye, banike nje "blowjob" enobuhlobo. Abafazi, njengoko bebonakalisiwe "ngokweenkcukacha-manani", abanamnqweno ongakumbi kwiqabane labo. Abafazi abane kwabalishumi (eJamani) bakhetha ukuphulula amalungu esini kunokulala ngesondo, kwaye i-63 ipesenti (iJamani) kuthiwa babelana ngesondo kanye emva kweenyanga ezintandathu, kunokuba zibhubhane mihla le. Ayisiyonto imnandi njengokufana nokwabelana ngesondo kubalulekile ukuze ubudlelwane buzinze. Nangona, kunjalo, ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye kuyo yonke indawo into echaseneyo iyagxininiswa kwaye, ewe, yenziwa. Ngokusemthethweni, sonke siyabelana ngesondo, sanelisekile kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, sihlala sisebenza.
Ukungcoliswa kwesitalato okuvuselelwa "ePaula Comes" kubonisa ukuba ukusikwa kwezinto eziqhelekileyo zesondo kube kanye ngenyanga xa kucinywe umlilo omkhulu. Isandi esifana nembaleki, ngenxa yam golfer (mhlawumbi uyayithanda umfanekiso-we-punch), ongathanda ukuba yiprojekhthi. Kodwa endaweni yokuziqhelanisa rhoqo, ukholelwa ukuba kufuneka awagcinile amandla akhe kumdlalo obalulekileyo. Ekugqibeleni unakho-ngaphandle kokuziqhelanisa - ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mandla aneleyo, okanye iteknoloji ebalulekileyo yokuza ngaphambili.
Nje ukuba uqhelane njengesibini kwisini esiqhelekileyo, isithintelo kwisini ngokubanzi kunye nokufezekisa isini ngokukodwa kuphezulu. Ngaba umqeqeshi wam wentetho uhlala njani emhle kangaka? Akukho "kuhamba ngesondo elinye" ngalo lonke ixesha, enye ayigqitywanga okanye kwisiphelo, ubukhulu bomgama mfutshane. Kodwa ukuyigcina mfutshane kufuna ukuziqhelanisa, ukuziqhelanisa kwaye- nokuphinda -thambe.
Photo / Ividiyo: Oscar Schmidt.
