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Kwindawo endikuyo kukho abanye abantu abanobudlelwane. Olu hlobo lobudlelwane luphawuleka ngokukodwa kwindalo ngendlela ekuxelwa ngayo. Nokuba ibali liqala njani, nokuba abazali okanye abahlobo badityanisiwe na, bahambe kunye okanye bathathe uhambo lokuya kwivenkile yefanitshala yaseSweden, lihlala liphela ngebinzana elithi "Kodwa asikho kubudlelwane".
Olunye uphawu kukuba yinxalenye enye kuphela yesi sibini esenza ukungabinobuhlobo, ngelixa elinye icala lingakuthathi kancinci, kodwa kuninzi nje izibakala ezinokuthetha. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba akukho ukuzibophelela okusemthethweni kubudlelwane, ingxelo nganye iphetha ngokudibanisa ukuba, ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nto, ayilobuhlobo. Apho isigwebo sibhengezwe ngqo yinxalenye yesi sibini esingakhange sakhwaza ubudlelwane, kodwa siyasamkela. Izandi zinzima. Kukwanjalo.
Ngandlela-thile kufuneka ndicinge ngeAlice yaseWonderland. Uyazi, le ncwadi imangalisayo yabantwana ngumbhali wase-Bhritane uLewis Carroll, ekufanele ukuba uyifunde njengomdala kwakhona.
I-heroine yentloko u-Alice udibana nayo kwihambo yakhe ye-adventure, phakathi kwezinye izinto, umenzi we-hat kunye nomjikelezo wakhe omangalisayo wabahlobo abasondele ukubhiyozela ipati yeti. Hayi ngokuzithandela ngokupheleleyo, njengoko kuvela. IHatter ixelela uAlice malunga nobuhlobo bakhe bangaphambili ngelo xesha, awayenempembelelo njengoko wayenqwenela. Kodwa ngomyalelo weNkosikazi yeeNhliziyo ukuba unqumle uMad Hatter ngokusebenza kwengoma yakhe engalunganga-ingqondo ingumnqweno omkhulu weRegent-ixesha lema. Ukusukela ngoko, iwotshi ayiqhubeki kwaye umtshabalalisi kunye nabahlobo bakhe bahlala beye ngentsimbi yesihlanu, ngoko lixesha lexesha lesiselo sasemini. Ubanjelwe kwi-tea engapheliyo yexesha le-warp.
UAlice ushiya olu hlanga luphambeneyo luntlithekileyo, kodwa ecinga ukuba kulungile ukuba kuthathe ixesha lokukwenza ngomhla wakhe wokuzalwa. Kuba emva koko unokubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa lwe-364. Kwaye "umthendeleko uya kubizwa ngokuba awungosuku lokuzalwa."
Mhlawumbi icandelo leAlice lokungabinobuhlobo licinga njalo. Ufumana imeko yokungabikho kobume bohlobo obumnandi kangangokuba ufuna ukuyeka ixesha kwaye aze abhiyozele ngonaphakade ubudlelwane. Izandi zothando, akunjalo?
Ukuba yonke loo nto ayinandlela yakutya okrakra. Kwaye kungengenxa yokuba icandelo le-Alice lisenokuhlakulela enye ye-Tindergärten ecaleni kwaye ngokusemthethweni ewe. Ayisiyo nto ingumbuzo wodwa, kuba oko kuvame ukubhengezwa kwaye kuxatyisiwe kubudlelwane obungebubo. Endaweni yoko, kungenxa yokuba umthwalo wokuzibophelela komnye umntu ubonakala unzima, nangona uthanda ukuchitha ixesha kunye.
Kwaye eneneni, njengokuba sikhula, kuya kusiba nzima ngakumbi ukukufumana oko kuzibophelela emlonyeni. Okukhona buqina buqina, kokukhona singagungqi kwabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha akulunganga. Kulungile ukwazi ukuba ufuna ntoni kwaye ungasafuni, kodwa akufuneki sibekwe ngokwamanqanaba. Ubomi buhlala benzeka phakathi. Izandi ziyaxilongwa, kodwa kunjalo.
Ngamaxesha athile, kuthiwa, imihla igqityiwe xa utsiba epatini, ngentsasa elandelayo usenza into ethile kwaye ngandlel 'ithile ngesiquphe kunye. Ukukhanya kunika indlela yokungathembani kunye nokuvavanya iimfuno zomntu, kulandelwe ngumbuzo wokuba (yintoni) ngokuvuma ukuyeka omnye umntu.
Andicingi ukuba kufuneka ndicele umngeni kwinto ekufuneka yenziwe-wena-ngoku-isibini, nokuba umntu ufuna okanye akafuni, atsho njalo okanye ayeke. Kwaye ukungabinayo ingxelo. Ewe, ndibonakala ngathi ndinenkani malunga noku, kodwa kusoloko kuvela ukuba ekupheleni kosuku yonke into ilula. Okuseleyo kuyadinisa. Umhle kwaye unomdla ngokwenene, kodwa kwaye kubuhlungu. Ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane obungenabo ubudlelwane buhlala buhleli nje ekupheleni, ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuzibophelela kwangempela kunye nenxalenye buza kubandezeleka. Ngelixa elinye icandelo lisithi akakaze athembise kwanto okanye akuveze kwasekuqaleni ukuba ubudlelwane abunakwenzeka. Nokuba isenzo somntu othile sinokuphakamisa amathemba ahlukileyo.
Lonke ulwalamano luthetha ukwenza ukungathobeki, kumanqanaba amaninzi ngexesha elinye. Yinto entle leyo, yonke enye into iyothusa. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba ubuncinci into engabalulekanga njengesiseko esisiseko: ewe ewe ngokucacileyo. Kwakungenxa yombulelo.
Photo / Ividiyo: Oscar Schmidt.
