Mira Kolenc
Incomplete phenomena, which are not fully understood or that are unmanageable in their diversity, often come to an approximation via statistics. This seems to reassure Westerners. Although it has long been rumored that statistics reflect the "reality" only very limited. You probably know the quote that Winston Churchill puts in the mouth and that sums up the problem.
One of these phenomena is sex. That was already the case, when sex only one task, namely that of reproduction proclaimed. And became even more complicated in public perception at the latest with the research of William Masters and Virginia Johnson. It is not without reason that everything can still be sold with the three letters until today, knowing that confiscation is not possible. In whatever sense, somehow the human being is compelled to give an opinion to the phenomenon declared as basic need, at least as a phenomenon necessary for humanity's survival.
"Whatever this 'real intimacy' is, here probably just the opposite of well-lit porn and demonstrated long-term lust with lots of moaning."
That would in itself be a life-fulfilling task enough, if there were not even this much incomprehensible love. They go their own way and that also happy from the sexuality. Although it is much more ethereal than the solid sex, it shows, in contrast to the physical, a greater resistance. And with this salad, man has been hounding ever since, since no state regulations, social agreements or their dissolution helped. What was and will not be tried, but whether socially accepted or not, it has not changed the dilemma in the end. Also, no broad-effective formats on TV, such as the sent to best summer hole time "Make Love", which promises us "love can learn," and this is also on the basis of real couples shows that want to show by their own statement, how real intimacy among lovers looks like because the internet is just full of sex, but not full of intimacy.
Whatever this "real intimacy" is, here probably just the opposite of well-lit porn and demonstrated long-term lust with a lot of groaning. "Real intimacy" as an antithesis to more aesthetically exciting sex.
What does a "normal" long-term couple do, with "normal" sexual preferences, "normal" average fantasy and "normal" routine everyday life for now, when love and lust are no longer compatible? Because somehow there would still be sexual desire, but just not on the already known. The question remains unresolved. The answers are - garnished with mountains of numbers - the eternally helpless standards: from wearing seductive lingerie or "romantic" food go over spray cream to the (joint) purchase of adult toys and - rather new in the tips - for prostate massage.
"Officially, we are all sexually balanced, satisfied, and above all, constantly active."
Paula Lambert, who strives to improve her sexual life, uses the format "Paula kommt" to advise the ladies that she has to take good care of her husbands, as they will become sad, jammed and unused. And for that you do not even have to sleep with each other, but just "blow them a friendly". Women, as statistically "proven", have no more desire for their partner. Four out of ten women (Germany) prefer to masturbate rather than have sex, and 63 percent (Germany) are said to prefer having sex once every six months, rather than mediocre ones on a daily basis. It does not really sound like it's like having sex together is important for a stable relationship. Although of course always and everywhere the opposite is emphasized and, of course, practiced. Officially, we are all sexually balanced, satisfied and above all, constantly active.
A street poll rehearsed in "Paula Comes" suggests that the cut of a common sexual activity is once a month when the big fire is extinguished. Sounds like an athlete, because of me a golfer (maybe you like the one-punch metaphor), who would like to become a pro. But instead of practicing regularly, he believes he has to retain his power for the crucial game. In the end he has - without practice - of course, neither enough power, nor the crucial technology to get ahead.
Once one has become accustomed to shared austerity as a couple, the hurdle to sex in general and fulfilling sex in particular is considerably high. How does my speech coach always say so beautifully? There is no "one-wheeling" for all time, one is never finished or at the finish, at most the distance there becomes shorter. But keeping it short requires practice, practice and - again - exercise.
Photo / Video: Oskar Schmidt.
