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Uyazi ukuthi yini okuhlekisayo? Emuva ngalesosikhathi, lapho ngithenga ngengubo yami yokuqala kusuka eminyakeni engu-60 ngineminyaka eyishumi nesithupha futhi nganquma ukuhamba nesitayela esifanele, abantu bangibiza ngokuthi "Marilyn Monroe" emgwaqweni. Ngokusobala kwakuyiyona kuphela into eyayixhumanisa nalolu hlobo lokubukeka. Ukuthi wayegqoke izinwele zakhe ezimhlophe- futhi ngimi ngami ngombala wezinwele zemvelo onsundu, kusobala ukuthi akazange enze lutho.
Eminyakeni eyishumi nesithupha kamuva, uma nje kungukuvumela isimo, ngizobuzwa ukuthi empeleni ngiyindoda noma wake waba yindoda. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngicabanga lokhu, kepha ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kutshela okuthile ngesimo esikhona emphakathini wethu.
Ukuhlolwa kwabangaphandle, njengobungqingili, kuhambisana nabesifazane kusukela ebuntwaneni babo. Futhi noma ngabe uvikelekile kakhulu futhi ukhula kude nomkhakha wezemfashini, njengoba ngenzile. Angifuni ukwenqaba ukuthi abafana kabadluliswa ngisho nasezimbali ezingaziwa ukuthi ubusha bungazenza kanjani ngokufaka isitayela, nokho kunokuhlala kukhathazeka kakhulu ngamantombazane. Futhi ukungalingani kuyaqhubeka. Ngicabanga, kuze kube sekupheleni kwempilo yokusebenza.
Noma kunjalo, ngithole ukuphawula kukaBarbara Kuchler (DIE ZEIT), osanda kuvela kwinkulumompikiswano ye #metoo, okungangabazeki. Kafushane nje, ucela abesifazane ukuthi bazivumelanise nemfashini endodeni, bagqoke izingubo ezingenamzimba futhi basebenzise amandla hhayi ukubukeka, kodwa umsebenzi kanye nemfundo. Futhi futhi ukubalekela ubulili - ngaphandle kothando, akukho (grapsch) reaction - ngakho-ke umbono wabo.
"Indoda egqoke umfaniswano njengophawu lokucabanga nokusebenza kahle ifana necala elingasho lutho njengowesifazane onamandla engqondo asevele eseqedile ukusetshenziswa kwezindebe zomlomo."
Kuyamangaza ukuthi ukugqama kobuntu besifazane kuya kusola kulezi zinsuku. Noma ngabe yikuphi, kuqinisekile ukuthi labo abafuna ukulalelwa njengowesifazane kufanele bayeke ubufazi. U-Angela Merkel uyisibonelo lapha esizibekayo. Ufanekisela izwe, kepha njengowesifazane akaziwa.
Indoda yokomoya ifakwe amakhodi emphakathini wethu. Indoda igcizelela ekuqaleni kwe-20. Century, ukuthi akakuhlanganisi ukubaluleka kokuphuma futhi kunezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele azenze. Ngenkathi lo mfazi egcotshwa kuze kube namuhla njengombhalo waphakade obuyele emuva ongekho okunye engqondweni ngaphandle kokusonga ukubukeka kwakhe emnandi futhi eyi-darzubieten. Ubunikazi, njengoba amanothi wemfashini uBarbara Vinken, uhlala esolwa ngobuwula nobuhle.
Indlela enjalo yokuhlanganisa ndawonye ubulili ngezingubo zokugqoka ifana nokujwayela okungenangqondo ezweni lezinzalamizi. Futhi amadoda afaka amasudi awenzanga okuhle emhlabeni, akunjalo? Indoda egqoke umfaniswano njengophawu lokucabanga nokusebenza kahle ingumgodi ongenalutho njengowowesifazane omandla akhe engqondo asevele aqedile ekusebenziseni i-lipstick.
I-Lookism, ukucwaswa ngesisekelo sokubukeka, kwenzeke kimi njalo kusukela ekuqaleni komsebenzi wami wobuchwepheshe. Kepha angikaze ngizibuze ukuthi yini inkinga ngami, kepha yini engahambi kahle kulo mphakathi, ukuthi isitayela sezingubo sinquma kakhulu ngokuhlolwa kwekhono. Futhi kunokuningi okungalungile. Bekumele sikhulule lo muntu esibophweni sakhe sokugqoka umfaniswano futhi simyeke abhekane "nobunqunu" bakhe obusha. Ukwazile ukucasha isikhathi eside kakhulu, ekholelwa ukuthi angakwazi ukulahla i-charm and ubuhle. Okwamanje, kusalona iqiniso ukuthi kufanele ubheke ubufazi njengesenzo sokuvukela futhi ungavumeli lutho lukuncenge.
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Ngicabanga ukuthi lokho esingakuboni ngokuheha kakhulu. Kwabaningi bendabuko ubunqunu bujwayelekile, akekho onendaba uma kungabonakala izingxenye zomzimba onqunu. Kunje.
Kusetshenziswe kulomhlaba wethu, kunengqondo ukuthi abesifazane abaningi abaningi bavele balinge ukubonisa ubuntu babo besifazane. Ukuthemba abesifazane abaningi ngokwengeziwe ukuthi bagqoke isitayela sabo. Ukuze ababukeli bagcine sebegculisiwe bese bekuqeda konke ukuphoqwa.
Hhayi, akulula kanjalo. Ngoba njenge-anyanisi, okulandelayo kukhanya ngaphansi kwesendlalelo esisodwa:
Bayeke abesifazane bagqoke abakufunayo.
Kungani sidinga le khodi yokugqoka? Kungani ukusebenza nokubukeka kubalwa ngaphezu kwamanani angaphakathi emphakathini wethu? Kungani sicabanga ukuthi kufanele sicashe ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu? Kuthiwani uma sonke “sinqunu” ngomqondo weqiniso - njengoba sinjalo, kwesinye isikhathi sinobuthakathaka, kwesinye isikhathi siqinile, ngesinye isikhathi siphambana, kwesinye isikhathi kuphela ... singaboniswa? Ngabe kuzoba nokuhlangana okwengeziwe kweqiniso ngalesosikhathi? Singabe sesifunda kalula yini ngokwenzeka kwabanye? Ngabe umphakathi wabantu ubukhula ndawonye othandweni? Bekungeke kusaba khona yini izimpi, kodwa ukubungazwa okunethezekile ngaphezulu? Ngabe sazizwa sixhunyiwe kuyo yonke into ngaleso sikhathi? Futhi noma ikakhulukazi ngemvelo? ... uphi umnyombo, kuphi ukuphela?
Kulula. Wonke umuntu uqala ngokwabo. Kepha empeleni bonke kusikhathi sinye. -D