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Shekaru goma ko goma sha ɗaya da suka wuce, lokacin da Facebook ke cikin ƙuruciyarsa kuma na ɗauki matakan farko na akan Intanet, da sauri na fahimci cewa ana iya amfani da waɗannan hanyoyin sadarwar zamantakewa, waɗanda ke gasawa, fiye da yanar gizo. Abokai da waɗanda suka sani. Amfani da su, duk da haka, ya kasance tare da yanayin tashin hankali. Jin motsin zuciyar da ya gudana ya rikice tsakanin damuwa da rashin amana.
A waccan lokacin, aƙalla a Munich, inda nake zama a lokacin, ana kiran cibiyar sadarwar zamantakewa ta gida Lokalisten. Abinda aka ɗauka shine cewa duk matasa na Munich suna ta birgima a can kuma sabanin duniyar analog, hanawa don magance wani ɗan adam kaɗan ne. Saƙonni suna ta ɓarke kullun cikin akwatin gidan waya. Abubuwan sha'awa, abokai ko manufa, kwatsam kowa zai iya samun abin da yake nema kuma ba lallai ne ya bar gidan ba kuma yana fatan makomar da ke kawo mutanen da suka dace.
Tabbas, babu wani mai amfani da ke gafala cewa irin wannan hanyar sadarwa tana da matukar taimako na farko. Bayyanar son rai ba su taɓa kasancewa da sauƙin nunawa ba. Jin daɗin tattaunawar wani Sympathiefaden, ƙarshe ya kasance haɗuwa ta ainihi.
Kuma waɗannan suna da kusan wani abu disreputable. Dukkanin yaran da na taɓa haɗuwa ban taɓa ba, sun taɓa cewa sun taɓa haduwa da mace daga intanet. Mafi yawan tattaunawar hujjoji ne da ke tabbatar da cewa akwai banbanci tsakanin dijital da duniyar analog din da aka gano cewa yayi girma sosai. Abokin baƙon baƙo ne, baƙo ne fiye da kowane baƙon talakawa na iya zama. Raba tsakanin "hakikanin" da kuma "dunkule" duniya ya yi kaifi. Kuma abubuwan da ba a sani ba daga intanet ɗin ba wani ɓangare na duniyar analog ɗin saba da tsinkaye.
A zahiri, da zarar an shawo kan wannan masifa kuma mutane biyu suka taru, suka zama ma'aurata, wannan ya sanya ma'amala don labarin almara wanda ya samo asali daga Intanet. Yaya aka yi sauti idan amsar tambayar gabatarwar kawai "Intanet"? Ba ko kaɗan soyayya ba. Kuma ba yanar gizo ba ne kawai don nerds waɗanda basu da damar samun abokin tarayya a rayuwa ta gaske?
A yau, lokacin da na zauna da maraice a cikin babban rukunin abokai tare da abokai, kowa yana faɗi yadda ya dace game da tsalle-tsalle na Intanet. Kuma har ila yau kakarka ta daina mamakin irin waɗannan hanyoyin gabatarwa. Ba ko kadan ba saboda ya dade bai zama sabon abu ba na musamman ga matashi mai yawan gaske, amma duk tsararrakin shekarun sun yi farin ciki a duniyar abota ta yanar gizo. Kashi 30 na dukkanin dangantakar ana ci nasara ta hanyar Intanet.
"A cikin Berlin, wani lokacin na ji cewa an dakatar da zirga-zirga a sararin jama'a gaba daya komai ya koma hanyar sadarwa."
A Berlin, wani lokacin ina jin cewa tukunyar fage a sararin samaniya an kusan dakatar da shi kuma komai ya koma hanyar sadarwa. Koda kun zauna shi kadai a mashaya kamar mace da yamma, wannan ba ana ɗaukarsa azaman gayyata bane. Amma wataƙila Berlin tana jin sanyi sosai saboda waɗannan maganganun maganganun mara tushe da ƙaya ta hanyar da take da dabara da za ta faɗi ƙarƙashin RARAR fahimta ta. Tambayar wacce har yanzu wayewarta take aiki.
A ƙarshe, tare da gabatarwar app Tinder na Dating a cikin 2012, an sami sabon matakin a cikin canji na (kan layi) Dating. Alkawarin: san juna koda sauƙaƙe! Ka'ida: Zabi don mai kara kuzari. Dalilin mahimmanci shine Tinder ya zama sabon abu na duniya.
Domin tare da gaskiyar cewa hoto ya yanke hukunci game da lambar sadarwar da ba rubutun da aka rubuta ba, an soke duk shingen harshe, masu yin hakan sun sami matsala ta tsakiya. Duk wani dattijo na uku bashi da aure, kasuwa babba. Sauƙaƙa salon rayuwa yana buƙatar duk zaɓuɓɓuka don buɗe cikin ƙauna. Mun daɗe muna bin ka'idodin tattalin arzikin kasuwa a rayuwar mai zaman kanta. Tinder shine kawai ƙarshen sakamako.
Amma duk wanda ya shigar da kara ta yanar gizo a wani matsayi zai ga cewa hakan ba karamin gamsarwa ba ne. Da farko dai muguwar jin daɗin iya zaɓan abokin da ake so daga babbar littafin, yawancin kwanakin da ba a yi nasara ba daga baya sai ɓacin rai da ɓacin ciki.
"Kawancen Dating sune masu haɓaka son kai wanda ke sa mana jin cewa an sami ceto na ɗan lokaci daga ƙimar kansu, suna sa ƙarshen ƙarshen aboki zaɓi ne don abokin tarayya mafi kyau."
Abubuwan Dating na yau da kullun sune masu haɓaka darajar kuɗi waɗanda ke sa mu ji cewa an ceci mu na ɗan lokaci daga ƙimar kansu, yin ƙarshen ƙarshen aboki zaɓi ne don abokin tarayya mafi kyau.
Kwanan nan, duk da haka, ƙarin rubutu da yawa daga tsoffin masu amfani da Tinder sun bayyana, waɗanda ke ba da sanarwar ficewar su. Dating ba kawai al'ada ce mara kyau ba, mai kyau, don ɗaukar minutesan mintuna na jira, don haka tenor. Kowa da kowa ya shiga cikin fuskar ba ya fuskantar matsalar rashin tsaro.
Gaskiyar magana tana da hankali: matsalolin ganowa da kuma kiyaye alaƙa sun kasance iri ɗaya ne. A ƙarshe, ɓarke yanar gizo har yanzu ya tabbatar da kansa a zahiri. Abinda muke buƙatar koya koyaushe shine ma'amala da sababbin hanyoyin. Domin ya kamata mu sarrafa su, ba su mu ba.
Photo / Video: Oscar Schmidt.
