Mira Kolenc
A yanayin da nake ciki akwai wasu mutanen da suke da alaƙa. Wannan nau'in alaƙar an lura da shi musamman ga yanayin yadda ake ba da rahotonsa. Ko ta yaya labarin ya fara, ko dai an sadu da iyaye ko abokai, sun yi tafiya tare ko sun yi balaguro zuwa kantin kayan adon Sweden, koyaushe yana ƙare da kalmar "Amma ba mu cikin wata dangantaka".
Wani fasalin shine kawai sashi na ma'aurata suna yin rashin dangantaka, yayin da ɗayan ɓangaren kuma basu ɗauka da mahimmanci ba, amma kawai lambobi da yawa sunyi magana. Koyaya, saboda babu cikakkiyar sadaukarwa a hukumance game da dangantaka, kowane ruwaya yana ƙare tare da ƙari cewa, duk da wannan duka, ba dangantaka ba ce. Ta hanyar wannan jumla aka ambata daidai wannan sashin ma'auratan da ba su yaba da rashin haɗin ba, amma sun yarda da shi. Sauti rikitarwa Hakan yayi ma.
Ko ta yaya zan yi tunanin Alice a Wonderland. Don haka ka sani, wannan littafin yara mai ban al'ajabi wanda marubucin Burtaniya Lewis Carroll, wanda tabbas yakamata ka sake karanta shi kamar yadda ka girma.
Fitacciyar jarumar Alice ta hadu a kan tafiyarta ta kasada, a tsakanin sauran abubuwa, mai yin hula da kuma abokansa da suka yi fice wadanda zasu kusan yi bikin shayi. Ba gaba ɗaya ba da son rai, kamar yadda ake juyawa. The Hatter ya gaya wa Alice game da abokantakarsa ta baya a lokacin, wanda ya sami damar yin tasiri kamar yadda yake so. Amma tare da odar Sarauniyar Zuciya ta fille kan Mad Hatter saboda rawar da ya yi ba ta dace ba - hankali yana da matukar son Regent - lokaci bai tsaya ba. Tun daga wannan lokacin, agogo baya ci gaba kuma ga mai kiyayya da abokan sa koyaushe karfe biyar ne, saboda haka kullun lokaci domin shayi na yamma. An kama ku a cikin warƙoƙin shayi mara iyaka.
Alice ta bar wannan mahaukacin al'umma ta rabu, amma tunanin zai yi kyau idan ta dauki lokaci don yin ta ranar haihuwarsa. Domin a lokacin zaku iya bikin ranar haihuwar kwanaki 364. Kuma "bikin za a kira ba da ranar haihuwa ba."
Wataƙila ɓangaren Alice na rashin haɗin gwiwa yana tunanin hakan daidai. Ya sami matsayin rashin matsayin dangantakar yana da ban sha'awa sosai har yana son dakatar da lokaci kuma har abada yana yin bikin ba tare da dangantaka ba. Sauti mai dadi, daidai ne?
Idan da dukan abu ba ko ta yaya wani m aftertaste. Kuma ba saboda Alice ɓangaren ba zai iya harzuka wasu Tindergärten tare kuma bisa hukuma a. Ba tambaya mai yawa ba ne na auren mace ɗaya, saboda galibi ana yin shelar da godiya a cikin ma'amala. Maimakon haka, ya zama game da abin da yasa nauyin don sadaukarwa ga wani mutum da alama yana da matukar wahala, ko da yake son cin lokaci tare da wannan.
Kuma haƙiƙa, yayin da muke tsufa, ya zama mafi wuya da wahalar samun wannan ƙwarin gwiwa daga bakin. Yayinda rayuwar ta kara karfi, da yawan rarrabuwarmu muke zama ga wasu. Wani lokaci dama, amma wani lokacin ba daidai ba. Yana da kyau ka san abin da kake so kuma ba ka son haka, amma bai kamata mu zama rarrabuwa ba. Rayuwa koyaushe tana faruwa tsakanin. Sauti trite, amma yana.
A wani lokaci, ana cewa, ranakun sun cika lokacin da kuka yi sakaci a wani biki, washegari yin wani abu sannan kuma kwatsam tare tare. Haske yana ba da hanya zuwa rashin yarda da auna bukatun mutum, bibiyar abin da mutum yake (har yanzu) yana son bayar da wani.
Ba na jin da yawa na samun ƙalubalantar tattaunawar ma'aurata-tsakanin-ma'aurata, ko dai wani ya so ko baya so, faɗi haka ko barin shi. Kuma tsallake shima sanarwa ne. Haka ne, Ina iya zama kamar dan tawaye a wannan batun, amma koyaushe yana nuna cewa a ƙarshen rana komai yana da sauƙi. Sauran ba matsala. Kyau da ban sha'awa hakika, amma kuma mai raɗaɗi. Saboda dangantakar mutum ba ta kasance ta ƙarshe ba, a haɗe, dangantaka ba tare da sadaukar da gaske ba kuma ɓangaren zai sha wahala. Yayin da ɗayan ɓangaren ya ce bai taɓa yin wa'adi wani abu ba ko kuma ya nuna daga farkon cewa dangantaka ba zai yiwu ba. Koda kuwa ayyukan da mutum zaiyi zai iya tayar da akasin haka.
Kowane dangantaka tana nufin yin yarjejeniya, akan matakai da yawa a lokaci guda. Hakan abu ne mai kyau, komai zai kasance mai ban sha'awa. Amma ina tsammanin akalla abu ɗaya shine ba makawa a matsayin tushen asali: a bayyane yake ga juna. Ya kasance saboda godiya.
Photo / Video: Oscar Schmidt.
