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ʻO ke aloha he pāʻani ʻokoʻa. ʻAʻole maopopo i ka mea nāna e pāʻani, ʻaʻole hoʻi e ʻike inā aia kekahi o nā kānāwai āpau. I loko o ke kāne, hoʻomaka mākou i ka zero a ʻo ka pilina. Ma o ka hoʻokolohua wale nō e hōʻiliʻili ai mākou i kekahi mau ʻike e kōkua ana i kekahi manawa iā mākou, akā i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole mākou. A he kūpono wale nō ka hoʻohele ʻia ʻana o ka naʻaupō i nā mea āpau a pau, ʻaʻole paha?
ʻO ka pilikia o ke kahakaha ʻia e kau ʻia i kekahi hanauna hou. […] I kēia manawa, ua ʻoi aku ka nīnau: ʻAʻole anei pau ʻē a mākea?
Mai ka makahiki 1970, ua noiʻi ʻia i ka nui o ka haʻalele ʻana i nā mākua i ka wā mau i ka hoʻomau ʻana o kā lākou poʻe keiki, a ʻo ka maopopo me ka hoʻomau ʻia ka pilikia o ka male ʻana i ka hanauna hou. No ke aha kēia mau a me nā mea e hoʻokau nei i ka hana, ʻoiai maʻamau, ʻaʻole maopopo. He paʻakikī loa ko ke kanaka. Uaʻike nā ʻike paʻa, akā ma nā hihia pākahi ka pili o nā kūlana koʻikoʻi a me nā hōkeo ʻana, ʻo ia hoʻi: ʻO ka male kaawale ka mea e pilikia ai ka pilikia, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻohana ma muli o ka wā lōʻihi no ka hua a me kona hoʻomohala ʻana a me kona lawe ʻana i mua. me nā hakakā heʻe.
He mea hoihoi nō hoʻi i hōʻike ʻia nā noiʻi ua ʻoi aku ka poʻe ʻōpio me nā mākua i hoʻohemo ʻia i nā pilina aloha ma mua o kā lākou mau hoa mai nā mākua me ka male mare. Manaʻo ia ʻo ka kīʻaha o ka home o ka makua i ka hoʻohemo keiki e hoʻoikaika nei i ka pono no ke kākoʻo i kahi pilina o kahi aloha.
Aia i ka ʻepekema. ʻAʻole naʻe e poina ʻia, akā, ʻo kēia mau noiʻi a pau e pili ana i nā helu i hōʻiliʻili nui ma mua. Akā, ua loli iki ka honua i nā ʻoihana pūnaewele. Eia naʻe, ʻoi aku ka nīnau o ka nīnau: ʻAʻole anei mākou i hoʻohemo wale? ʻO ka mea maʻamau, ʻo ka ʻelemakule āu e loaʻa ai, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ke aloha. ʻO ka ʻike nui, e manaʻo paha paha kekahi, ʻo ia ka mea pono, akā ma ke aloha mākou e noho mau ai a hiki i ka hopena. I ko mākou makahiki ʻehiku, aloha mākou i ke keiki, ka mea i ka like like me ke kuʻina liʻiliʻi, ma ka ʻumikumamāono o ke keiki hoa aloha e makemake wale iā mākou no ka mea ua waihoʻo ia i ka makahiki a me ka iwakālua o ka makahiki o ka nerdy DJ he meaʻoluʻolu loa, no ka mea ua ʻoi aʻe ʻo ia. he ʻike kāu ʻaʻole ʻoe i waiwai a ʻaʻole ʻoe e mahalo i ka hopena.
Akā a laila e hele mai kēia manawa ikaika i ka mea a nā wahine e ʻōlelo ai: ʻO ka mea nui loa ʻo ia ka ʻakaʻaka! A ka manaʻo au i ka hoʻonaʻauao like like me lākou nō lākou iho, kahi kūlana koʻikoʻi a i ʻole ka prospectate, a me ka loaʻa o nā waiwai waiwai. Pono ke kanaka e leʻaleʻa, kahi kūpono hoʻi e like me ke kākeleka pale ma ka blouse. Inā i kēia manawa a i ʻole nā mea ʻokoʻa i wehe ʻia, a pehea hoʻi ke ʻano o ke ao nei, ʻaʻole pono ia.
No nā kāne, koi pinepine ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i nā hoa pili i ka nui o ka pili ʻana o kahi pilina lōʻihi.
Eia nō naʻe. ʻAʻole he pilikia i ka piʻi nui ʻana i ka wā kahiko. Ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole ia i hoʻōki i ka poʻe mai ka hoʻomau ʻana i ka hoa kāne. Akā i kēia manawa ua hāʻawi lākou iā ia i mea hana e like me ke hiki, e like me ka hiki ʻole ke koho: ke koho ʻana i ka hoa moe a ka ʻatikala a World Wide Web.
"Inā kūkulu ʻoe i kāu pilina e hoʻohana ana i ke kānāwai modular, e kiʻi wale ʻoe i ka mea āu e makemake ai - akā ʻaʻole pono kēlā e pono ai."
Akā ʻo ka ʻike o kēia hiki ke hoʻowahāwahā kekahi. I loko o kahi ninaninau me ZEIT, ʻo Arne Kahlke, hoʻokahi poʻo o ka hoa elite a me ka makua, e ʻōlelo ana i ka mea e kani mālie ana ma luna o mākou: "ʻAʻole loa nā kānaka e hauʻoli inā hiki iā lākou ke koho i nā mea āpau iā lākou iho." A hoʻomau ʻo Kahlke: "ʻO wai kāna ʻO ka pilina e like me ke kānāwai modular, e loaʻa wale i ka mea āna e makemake ai - akā, ʻaʻole pono ia i nā mea e pono ai. "
ʻO nā koho ʻole ʻole e kali nei no ʻoe e lilo i mea maʻalahi no kekahi e hoʻopau i kahi pilina. ʻAʻole no kekahi mea, ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ka neʻe ʻana i nā kūlanakauhale nui ma mua o nā wahi ʻē aʻe.
He mea koʻikoʻi paha ia no ka hihia ʻipoipo, pehea e pane ai kekahi i ka hōʻike marshmallow i ke keiki. No ka mea eia hou mākou i ka nīnau noiau, no ke aha e hiki ai i kahi keiki ke kali i ka wā ʻē aʻe e hāʻule koke kekahi i ka ʻoliʻoli pono (a ʻai kā ka Marshmallow). Predisposition? Socialization? Experience?
ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻaʻole au i ʻike inā ua nānā maoli kēia mau ho'āʻo i nā mea e pili ana i ka male a me nā keiki male male ʻole. Pono ka pūnaewele i kahi marshmallow pīhoihoi a inā hiki iā ʻoe ke pale i kona hoʻowalewale, e uku ʻia ʻoe. Ka manaʻo ʻole o nā mea a kou mau mākua i hana ai.
Photo / Video: Oscar Schmidt.
