Away from the binary gender roles

I have been living non-binary for many years, with no social or cultural gender-related prohibitions and gender stereotypes between the sexes. explanation of Terms.

Unlike typical men, my estrogen receptors did not get damaged by testosterone after puberty, but remained intact, causing the body itself to produce estrogen, lead to female fat distribution and body hair, and have curves. I've tried to train them for a long time, but now I stand by and am proud of what I am and how I look. 

The binary gender roles

Unlike transsexuals, I do not imitate the voice and gestures of the opposite sex. I do not wear a wig, I do not have to stuff anything, and I just clothe myself after what fits my body, whether it's the ladies or the men's section. The body shape specifies the clothes, not the born gender. In everyday life, I've never looked stupid or discriminated. Only since my weekly Genderqueer campaign, my commitment to equality, MeToo victims, the third sex, and increasing media exposure have there been insults and threats in the digital world, ironically even by the transgender community. In the meantime, I have even received serious death threats.  

Already in my childhood I got along better with girls than with boys. The rituals, the development and the idiosyncrasies of the boys in puberty were never mine. Instead of football and sport, I was more interested in artistic things, but also in fashion and cosmetics. 

A man should be pragmatic, strong and reasonable. But a woman is allowed to be creative, emotional and crazy and to redefine herself every day in terms of clothing and cosmetics. Everything that is fun seems to be reserved for the female sex. I paint my face as I like, wear whatever I want, epilate my legs and armpits and also like to paint my nails. It's just fun and I've never understood why this should be an exclusive right for women. It is not explicitly about clothing or make-up, but the fundamental freedom to do it, if you want.

Looking back in time, it is not so long ago when pink and red were typically masculine colors and the male sex was making up or wore the most beautiful clothes and shoes. Only then they had not denied their masculinity at that time. It was a sign of power and strength.

equal rights

There is nothing embarrassing about being interested in such things. If that were the case, around 52% of the world's population would have to be ashamed day in, day out. The struggle for emancipation once began with the wearing of pants. Women are more relaxed in terms of bisexuality (while bisexual men are considered cloaked gays) and often appear, eg. professional, male on what society welcomes and calls "tough". But alas, a man even remotely shows female attributes, then apparently the world goes under. And this is already trained as a toddler in kindergarten.

If there were true equality, men who show their feminine side would not be discriminated against and threatened. It is specifically women who, while demanding more and more rights, do not want to renounce their privileges in everyday life. Equality is more than the gender pay gap, it begins with elementary things of everyday life as the free choice of clothing. 

Even primitive peoples distinguished in up to 5 genders. It was the Christian missionaries who imposed the binary gender roles on the world. There is nothing that is only male or just female. In every human being there are both one and the other parts. Women also live it out freely. Men, on the other hand, do not dare, but according to 350.000 there are thematically related entries in German-language Internet forums, and a recent Reddit poll with more than 10.000 comments confirms an increasing mass that desires this or lives it out in secret. I stand by it, because femininity should be nothing, for what one would be ashamed.

We live in a world where the brain is at the center of everything that defines a person's character. But it is precisely the sentient sex, when it deviates from the born, that is given no credence. For me, gender is a symbiosis of mind and body. Gender is not a binary, it is a spectrum, as current scientific studies show. Neither the DNA nor the chromosomes are completely decoded, so why do so many refuse to believe there is more between man and woman?

It is the gender stereotypes, the forced categorization, the drawer thinking and the family or socially imposed role models that make people sick.

Photo / Video: Alexander Hölzl.